Sis, you are worth more than a quick fling. You're worth more than some random. Now, what is random? "A random is someone who's just taking up space and you don't see marriage in your future." - Heather Lindsey.
STOP SETTLING. I had a talk with some of my sisters in Christ and this conversation made all of us realize that we as women have got to do better. We're settling for baby mama, long-term girl friend, and "side-chicks". You are a daughter of the King, you deserve only the best and the highest title. Not a man who ISN'T on the same page with you and doesn't bring out the best in you. Stop settling for Ishmael when God has Isaac prepared for you. Yeah, Ishmael looks good, but remember that just because it seems good and looks good, doesn't mean it's good for you. And I'll even add this... Just because it looks good... doesn't mean you need to pursue it. The bible says, HE that FINDS a wife, FINDS a good thing. Not, SHE that FINDS a husband, finds a good thing. Trust me when I say, when you're full God, confidence, and KNOW your worth, you won't settle. You'll know when you're approached by an "Ishmael" and not an Isaac.
During your single season, God molds you into the wife of the husband you want. You can't ask God for a Godly man if you're not the Godly woman that completes him. I love the way Heather Lindsey puts it. When God made woman, Adam was in a deep sleep and took a piece of his rib and made Eve. Adam was sleep while Eve was being created. SO WHAT YOU'RE STILL SINGLE?! Your Adam is still sleeping which means God is still creating you. You're still being perfected. A while ago, I wanted a Godly man, but I wasn't the Godly woman that would complete him. So I started saying.. "Aw, will.. He as form of Godliness... He prays... He's a CEO Church goer (Christmas and Easter Only)... etc. But I had to realize that I have to compromise my standards for man.. then it's clear he isn't the one. SIS, don't compromise your standards for NO MAN. PERIOD. So during this season, allow God to perfect you. Sure, it isn't fun. but it's so necessary. For example, I've been working on my smart mouth. God has shown me in numerous situations that my opinion or words aren't needed. That sometimes it's best to just be quiet and not entertain it. SPEND TIME WITH GOD!!!! I kid y'all not, when I first started this single season.. I was faithfully trying to find a way to get out of it. I MEANT I was not going to be single. It didn't help to see pictures of couples on Instagram and Twitter and I was sitting there looking like O_O. But as I spent time with God, my desire for him and the THINGS of him grew like crazy. Before I knew it, I was craving GOD and his PRESENCE and NOT some relationship that LOOKS good. Through this, Pinky Promise Troy was birthed. If I would have found some random, this would have never happened.
So to my sister who feels lonely and wondering when you'll find your man, SMILE and remember he's coming to you. Take this time to allow God to work on you. Spend time with him! He will fill any lonely area of your life with his love and peace. Find some friends to spend time with! Get involved in something you enjoy doing. Go on a date with Jesus. It sounds silly, but it's a reason to get cute and go to restaurant or the movies. God loves you sis, remember your worth. <3
here's to no randoms :)
Love youuu.
